‘To yield readily— easily— to the persuasion of a friend is no merit with you.’
‘To yield without conviction is no compliment to the understanding of either.’
‘You appear to me, Mr. Darcy, to allow nothing for the influence of friendship and affection.’ ≈ Elizabeth Bennett and Mr Darcy, Pride and Prejudice, 1813
‘Nobody sees a flower— really—it is so small it takes time—we haven’t time—and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time.’ ≈ Georgia O’Keeffe
‘It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.’ ≈ Marlene Dietrich
Women are hard-wired to be social in ways that not only reduce stress but help them stay healthier as they age. In fact, not having strong bonds with family and friends is the equivalent of poison–as detrimental to physical well-being as smoking or being overweight, according to U.C.L.A. researchers. ‘Social ties are the cheapest medicine we have,’ writes psychologist Shelley E. Taylor, author of The Tending Instinct: Women, Men, and the Biology of Our Relationships. Men typically rely on women for that protective shield of intimacy, often in marriage. But studies have shown that, for women, it doesn’t matter whether they are married or not, as long as they have close relationships. From Elizabeth and Jane Bennett to Sex and the City, where would we be without our girlfriends?